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Wendy Mackowski
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One Step Beyond Failureby Wendy Mackowski, Inner North Coaching A man meets a guru in the road. The man asks the guru, "Which way is success?" The bearded sage does not speak but points to a place off in the distance. The man, thrilled by the prospect of quick and easy success, rushes off in the direction the sage has indicated. Suddenly, there comes a loud "Splat!!!" Eventually, the man limps back, tattered and stunned, assuming he must have misinterpreted the message. He repeats his question to the guru, who again points silently in the same direction. The man obediently walks off once more. This time the splat is deafening, and when the man crawls back, he is bloody, broken, tattered, and irate. "I asked you which way is success," he screams at the guru. "I followed the direction you indicated. And all I got was splatted! No more of this pointing! Talk!" Only then does the guru speak, and what he says is this: "Success is that way. Just a little after the splat." Author Unknown Question: How many times have we quit at the splat and never ventured beyond it? We've all experienced the challenge of feeling like we were at the end of our rope--putting in all the work and not seeing the results we hoped for, setting goals only to fall short. That dreaded state when our Gremlins begin to tell us we are failures. So what is the difference between those who quit and those who venture on to success? Here are three suggestions for processing our "failures" so we will gain the strength and wisdom to keep moving forward: Transforming the concept of failure--"Fear of Failure" is right up there as one of the biggest fears humans have. What is this failure we fear? Is it real or is it actually just the difference between what we expect of ourselves or of life and what actually happens? If we never have failure then we are never moving out of our comfort zone, never risking trying anything new, never growing bigger than where we are right now. What would it be like to view our failures as successes? To look at how we grew, the lessons we learned, and how we can celebrate our stepping out to become something bigger than we are now? To realize also our humanness, how we aren't perfect and to gain a little more compassion for the struggles we all face. Transforming our failure into success can give us new resolve in working towards our goals. Going back to your purpose--The next step is going back to what is important to you. What is the big picture? What is your dream or vision behind this goal? What values are you truly honoring by staying on this path and continuing? Get in touch with the passion that was driving you in the first place and reconnect to that. Find your center, your authentic spirit, and reconnect with your wise self that knows what you want and knows you can do it. Revaluate your plan--The only purpose for looking back at the past is to figure out what worked so you can do more of it. Learn from what you've done. Take a hard look at the impact you've had so far. What really worked well? What do you need to tweak or do differently? Without judging or beating yourself up for past mistakes, take a hard and truthful look at where changes need to be made. Where have you let your comfort zone hold you back? What will it take to stretch to the next level? Challenge: Keep track of the splats in your life and choose how you will respond to them. Take them through the process above and keep moving forward. What's beyond the splat for you? Wendy Mackowski, a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach, lives in Orange County, California and is the owner of Inner North Coaching. For more information about coaching, sign up for Wendy's free email newsletter, or permission to reprint this story, contact Wendy. |
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